Forbes contributors publish independent expert analyses and insights. I write about relationships, personality, and everyday psychology. When love feels more like fear than security, it may be a sign ...

In relationships, control varies from mild to abusive to coercive control. When it’s mild, it can be helpful or annoying. When it’s abusive or coercive, it can be damaging. Control varies in pattern, ...

If these traits start sounding familiar, it might be time to do some self-reflection. Most of us dream of finding the person we want to spend life with. Sadly, it's not that easy. Healthy ...

Why do people misidentify control as love? Here are three ways to answer that question. Not everything that looks like love to begin with actually turns out to be true. Sometimes, what feels intense ...

Control struggles between partners are often the ruin of a couple. But what is a battle for “control” in the context of a relationship? When I introduce this concept in couple’s therapy, there is ...

Why some partnerships just magically click, and others don't. As a couples counselor, clinical psychologist, and someone who asks friends about intimate details of their marriages as frequently as ...

Have you ever met someone who seemed too into you? It felt good, but also seemed too good to be true? As a Harvard-trained psychologist, I've found that some toxic relationships start out like an ...

In our desire to understand, manage, or untangle our relationships, we are constantly trying to view them through different lenses, struggling to connect the dots: Is it about me or about him? Has the ...