The goal of healing isn’t to erase what happened to you. It’s to let your mind take authority over your brain’s memory of it, until the wound stops being your identity and becomes instead a place you can help someone else from. Neuroscience nugget: What researchers call post-traumatic growth is measurable. People who process pain with meaning-making, rather than avoidance, show changes in how the brain encodes the memory, moving it from raw threat into integrated narrative. Self-Brain Surgery Pr